It's ok to hurt someone…
Imagine what the world would look like if we were able to acknowledge that we will inevitably hurt each other.
Meaning, instead of assuming that hurt won't happen, we learned how to actually work through it.
Here’s how you can start doing this today.
Here is some comfort food for hard times 🍲
When we struggle, we look for comfort.
This phenomenon also happens as n’betweeners.
We need n’betweener-comfy-food.
We crave something that will soothe our pain . . .
Whose permission are you waiting for?
Do you feel like you can’t ever make up your mind? You think: “How do I want to respond to this?” “What move do I want to make with my career” or maybe “What do I need right now?”
Here is the thing: You DO know what you want. Your gut is telling you loud and clear, but, here’s why you THINK you don’t know.
so tell me what you want...
what you really really want!
Spice girls sass aside, let's get real:
Do you ask for what you want?
Should'ing all over yourself?
We put so much pressure on ourselves regarding what we should or shouldn't be doing.
It creates a painful spiral of self-aggression. And it’s oh-so-common when living with marginalized experiences.
Learn how you can redirect self-aggression outwards and save yourself from the pain of “shoulding.”
After 2 years…IT HAPPENED 🎉
Do you ever find it difficult to describe how you’re feeling?
The emotions are there, but it’s hard to find the words to articulate them?
Well, now a very important word describing those of us with multiple marginalized identities is officially TRADEMARKED!
And this word is just the beginning of how I’m building a language to describe our experience!
I’m giving free therapy to Palestinians ❤️🩹👇
I’m offering free therapy sessions to Palestinians.
Read on to learn more about this resource.
1000 TAK til dig
My most authentic language is when I mix between languages. Sometimes it's just better said in another language.
Today I have a special message for you in Danish . . .
No need to fit in. Try this instead.
I know you'll get this:
That painful moment when you try to put on those pants, and they just don’t FIT.
Well, I think it’s time to stop trying to FIT IN altogether! Here’s why.
To the tired perfectionist
Find yourself needing to get it RIGHT?!
You want to be perfect. You want to cause no harm. You just can’t fuck up this job, this relationship, or this project. Well, you’re not alone.
Too many of us expect to get things right all the time, but messing up is inevitable. I hate to break it to all my fellow perfectionists out there, but we are bound to make millions of mistakes.
Here’s why it’s time to let perfectionism go.
Did you miss this last time?!
These past months I’ve poured my heart into ONE thing:
Yes, I'm writing a book
It’s a powerful educational memoir.
To help empower those who feel misunderstood and alone in their complex intersectional marginalized identities.
And I need YOUR help!
Throwing your potential out the window?! 💨
Have you ever not pursued an opportunity cause you didn’t think you knew enough?
My hand is raised 🙋♀️
Let’s talk about how you can change that and embrace your power!
Are you the next Maya Angelou?!
I frequently compare myself to people I admire.
Especially Black women. Women of color who have faced deep levels of racism and sexism. Like Beyoncé, Michelle Obama, Maya Angelou...
I put myself down, and put them on a pedestal. And I think to myself: “I’ll never feel as [fill in the blank] as them.”
Ever felt like this? Then this news is for you!
When we self-deceive…💔
There is a sneaky type of lie. A form of self-deception that most people are clueless exists.
Yet as n’betweeners we digest this sneaky lie every damn day.
I am talking about Internalized Oppression. Learn how it might be affecting you.
Risk getting rejected 😱
Imagine for one day, you got a free pass and you could do, say and be anything you wanted. Zero consequences. You could dress in whatever clothes. You could say whatever you wanted as loud as you wanted to.
How would you act? Now, why don’t you act that way every day?
Looking for what’s wrong with you?!
n’betweeners are often made invisible by society.
It’s important that we don’t do the same to ourselves.
Learn why and how to embrace your wholeness.
From Invisible to Invincible (!)
Minority stress is real. That chronic anxiety associated with being “other.”
Read on about how it impacts n’betweeners . . .
and the freedom we experience when we belong.
The "I won't stop crying" myth 🤨
Picture this for a moment:
Imagine you just heard the FUNNIEST joke...!
Now I tell you: "Do NOT laugh". Hold your breath and all that laughter in.
Here is the thing. You're probably doing this. Not with laughing, but with crying.
Here’s why you should stop suppressing your tears.
Whew that tender space of closeness
Knowing oneself can be quite a quest as an n’betweener.
We navigate many complexities, so we struggle sometimes knowing ourselves genuinely.
Here’s how I can help.
When we turn against each other
I have an important question to ask you today:
How does horizontal hostility show up in your life?
When do you disrespect or put down another marginalized group?
(Hint: the answer cannot be: “I don’t” 🙃)