As n’betweeners we can get particularly jealous towards one another — especially people who may have similar identities as ourselves — and feel like we have to compete with each other.

When you notice having strong feelings towards someone it is an indicator to stay curious with yourself.

And to ask yourself this question . . .

I’m on the Moon Islands to be with family & friends, to write, to reconnect to my roots.

Sometimes it can feel like I am chasing belonging. Like I’m trying to glue a puzzle together that keeps breaking apart.

But yesterday it felt like I found the missing piece of the puzzle I had been looking for...

Traveling is often overly romanticized.

The ideal travel experience often involves sun, adventure and a fancy cocktail.

So when things go “wrong” or not the way we’d like, we can quickly make a judgment saying things like, “this wasn’t supposed to happen.”

But what if we could embrace the many unknowns and unexpected outcomes in our lives?

When were you last comparing yourself? Who was it? Maybe it was your colleague, best friend, mentor or maybe even an influencer?

Every time we compare ourselves to others, we minimize our worth.

Here’s why . . .

I don’t know about you but letting go doesn’t come naturally to me. Most of us avoid experiencing loss at all costs.

So we hold on. We latch. We grasp. We may even get desperate. 

But it doesn’t have to be that way . . .

Here is what you're gonna do.

You're going use this ONE word in any sentence👇 , and abracadabra you’ll be on a date 🪄

Here it is . . .

It’s a big week!

On Monday we celebrated the freedom to have access to abortion in France. That is now written in the effing Constitution, something we dream of here in the US.

Tomorrow we celebrate International Women’s Day, honoring ALL women.

Why is this important?

In my opinion, sexism is the MOST underestimated system of oppression.

I’m in a pickle these days. I’m in a situation that I don’t like. Let’s be real, it feels like a nightmare.

In these moments I have to remember: struggle always comes with some sort of benefit.

The ‘easy’ path is not always the ‘better’ path. Here’s why.

Thanks to my clients, I joyfully celebrate eight years as a psychotherapist. Over the years, I often hear clients saying things like…

“I have bad anxiety”

“I’m too emotional”

“I shouldn’t be feeling this”

Yet, I’m not in the business of finding “issues” in people. I believe it’s important to watch for this tendency to overstigmatize ourselves. Here’s why.

Pressure happens when we hold onto absolute ideas on how “things should be.” We stay inflexible and narrow minded.

Whenever we tell ourselves that things must be a certain way, we put ourselves under a lot of stress and make things painful for ourselves.

Guess what? n’betweeners do this with both the small and big things in life. So how do we alleviate this pressure?

Well let me tell you this story.

Some of us n’betweeners like to be on "top of everything." Sometimes called perfectionists, we plan ahead, work hard, and try to predict. 

And then when something unexpected happens, we fall into a void 🕳

You may be at your capacity for hardship, but I want to encourage you that a struggle always comes with some sort of benefit. Here’s why.

In the midst of the constant workload, spiraling anxious thoughts, challenging relationship dynamics, cooking/dishes on repeat, and never-ending email responding…

There’s one mistake you cannot afford to make.

Read on to learn more.

If you really knew me, you would know that I have a crying practice.

And, on Sunday morning, I had tears of INSPIRATION 🙌

Sitting on my bed, I watched the Queen of Denmark – who reigned for 52 years – pass the torch to her son, our now King Frederik.

It was a touching historical moment that taught me something profound.

Here is something interesting:

The most difficult emotional experience is often not fear nor sadness. 

It’s J O Y. Here’s why.

Is something nagging you about 2023?

Something that didn’t go as you would have liked or hoped? Something you didn’t achieve?

I’m inviting you to do this one thing with me.

Let it go.

Today for Winter Solstice we beautifully balance dark and light. This is the ultimate n’betweener task. To allow space for both and.

As we move into holiday season, I want to provide you this reminder of allowing yourself to stay in the gray. 

That this shall pass too, whether that moment is beautiful or difficult. 

Picture this: you're glued to the couch, tired, maybe even depressed. You feel like you have energy for absolutely NOTHING.

Then, suddenly, you're standing, and a rush of energy moves through your body.

You're INSPIRED.

What allowed that to happen?

You can find the answer by asking yourself a question . . .

Daaamn I’m impressed. That’s what I call a joyful cultural celebration!

Renaissance - Beyoncé's new concert documentary.

It was GORGEOUS. Glamorous. But the parts I loved most aren’t what you would expect.