You’re not alone, I promise

You might relate to this.

You’re at a gathering. You’re in the company of good people, maybe you’re with colleagues, a close friend or family members. Yet as you’re in their presence, you keep experiencing this nagging achy feeling.

You feel alone. 

This experience that they just don’t FULLY get you. That something is missing...

This experience that no one else feels the way you do, or could begin to understand you.

Loneliness is part of being an n’betweener.

It’s super common for n’betweeners to feel alone.

When I say alone, I mean all types of loneliness from isolation, not being understood,  feeling rejected, standing out etc.

When we hold such complex marginalized experiences, we naturally feel that no one can relate to us. 

Most often than not, as n’betweeners we have a history of trauma. This could be from our childhood, experiences of daily oppression and/or intergenerational trauma.

Trauma creates an illusion of isolation.

In reality, there is someone right in this moment who is feeling something very similar to what you're feeling right now.

Here is how you can support yourself to feel less alone:

• Speak to the pain

• Dare to be vulnerable

• Take emotional risk sharing with someone

Remember that you're not alone, you're n'between.

Hug hug 

Nora