What my therapist once asked me…

Today we celebrate our love for women. We celebrate liberation. This is important no matter your gender identity.

So I have an important question for you…

How do you love yourself?

When are you intimate with yourself?

I know...it’s vulnerable.

But seriously, when no one is watching, the blinds are closed, the door is shut, how do you love Y-O-U?

Smile to yourself in the mirror? Give yourself a kiss? Or maybe you put on a badass outfit? 

For me it’s drinking a cup of coffee. 

We learn that self-love has a "look". Some woo-woo person with shiny crystals. But self-love is what it means to you.

In a moment in my life where I was feeling at the lowest of my lows, my therapist asked me:

“Nora, when do you feel most at peace with yourself?”

No journaling, movement or meditation was helping.

I wiped my tears, took a moment, and said: “when I have my coffee”. 

She then smiled and said “So make sure to drink as many coffees today”.

I exhaled and smiled ❤️

Since then I always give myself permission to feel the sweetness of drinking coffee.

It’s an intimate moment of care towards myself. Something about holding that mug. It’s a sacred practice for me. Choosing which mug (the small blue-white one, or the beautiful black-brown). Choosing which type of coffee, what strength of coffee today. Warming up my milk, and how it magically turns into these white clouds. And finally seeing the brown-white liquid fusion.

It can be hard to intimately BE ourselves. To allow whatever intimacy looks like for you.

Authenticity is the constant letting go of who you think you should be and accepting who you really are.

Loving ourselves through our imperfections is a challenge.

Just because you don’t feel love towards yourself doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist.

The absence of self-love doesn’t mean it’s not there.

My dear n’betweener, I know you can be hard on yourself.

Feeling like you’re never good enough doesn’t mean you lack the capacity to love yourself. 

Sometimes we may just need to drink a cup of coffee cause that love is at our core.

We have to trust that even though we are feeling “bleh” right now does not mean forever. A greater appreciation does exist within our bodies. 

Trust that you can find that love for yourself. Even if it is a passing moment. It’s there. Trust it.

Sending you a squeeze.

🤗

Nora