You’re not listening to yourself

Ever done that exercise where you take turns where one person talks while the other person listens without saying anything? 

Basic goal is to realize how we’re often bad listeners, and how we miscommunicate.

While deep listening is essential in relationships, I wonder:

Do you deeply listen to yourself?

H-O-W do you listen to your desires, needs and boundaries?

Unfortunately, we sometimes don’t notice we’re not listening to ourselves until that nagging unsettling feeling shows up in our bodies.

That icky nagging feeling you have when you do something you didn’t want to do.

 You said yes to a trip that you didn’t want to go on.

 You shared something about yourself that didn’t feel right.

 You went out with friends, when you wanted to stay at home with a book.

That incongruence in your body hurts you.

It take courage to be integral with ourselves (particularly shapeshifters like us n’betweeners..!)

Integrity means to be true to yourself. It’s a sacred moment of deep listening with self.

Integrity isn’t easy, it requires consistent listening. 

I believe in self-check-ins. Just like you take time to check-in on a flight, you gotta carve out regular time to check-in with yourself. You’re at check-in counter asking yourself “Hey how are we”, “where are we going", "what do we need?”.

Here is are three steps to have a integral week:

1. Listen with your gut, not your intellect

2. Ask yourself “Is this nourishing me?”

3. Give yourself permission to change your mind.

This is mental health month. Take time to be with yourself.

I’d love to hear from you:

When do you struggle the most to listen to yourself?

What helps you listen to yourself? Being in nature? Journaling? Seeing your therapist? 

Heart hugs

Nora