Settling for less?

"No, I'm good" followed by an awkward smile.

Sounds familiar?

How are you settling right now in your life?

Is it staying in non-meaningful relationships, keeping an exhausting job, or not having enough money?

We sometimes don’t seek out things that will better suit us and actually upscale our life. 

It even happens with the "small" things, like choosing our boss, therapist, doctor, or hairdresser. We settle. 

We say “Eh, it doesn’t matter who, I just need someone.” But these are actually people we get quite close with and we may not always realize the importance of finding someone who can understand us.

Someone who can understand us because they share a similar lived experience. Having someone who has similar values, perhaps looks like us, identifies like us, or lives like us is so important to our mental health. To build a sense of self and a sense of community.

You know why it's so easy to settle?

Cause you struggle picturing that you can have an abundant life. 

That you are worthy of abundance (period).

That you deserve to have a workplace and relationships that get you. You only benefit when you are met with individuals who can genuinely relate to your experiences and struggles. And sometimes you do have to put in a little more work to find it. You have to do extra research to find the person/job/opportunity that can relate to your experience, but oh is it worth it.

I know you want to make most out of life. So what do you need change in order to manifest this?

Don’t settle for people who don’t fully see you. Who don’t fully get you. You are worth so much and deserve to be appreciated and understood. Find the doctor that truly gets your body. Find the hair stylist with the textured hair. Find the partner that will stand up for you. 

Find the right people that you invest time and money in because, ultimately, you are investing in yourself.

Settling is the easier option.

Take time to reflect, to understand what you want and don't want. Be curious about your needs and dreams. 

Cause you deserve an abundant life.

Ready to make changes to your life?

XO 

Nora