I wish I had her life 😔

Who are you currently comparing yourself to?

It’s that person you admire.

For example👉 You’re scrolling on IG and somehow end up on Mary’s profile and think to yourself: “Wow this person is just so cool. I wish I had her life.”

Maybe your Mary is your boss, colleague, mentor, best friend, coach or teacher.

When we compare ourselves to others, we minimize our worth.

We put them on a pedestal and say “you’re better,” “you’re smarter,” etc., and we lower ourselves and our self-worth. 

This is a common theme for us n’betweeners. We endlessly compare ourselves to others.

You are not here to compare yourself to other people. You are here to be your authentic self.

Want to stop the comparison?  Play this fun game with me. 🌈

I call it the “Swapping Spots” game.

I learned this from a brilliant Danish comedian and actress - Hella Joof. Not only is she hilarious, but she is also deeply insightful, and she is of course an n’betweener.

Here is how it works:

1. Choose one person you want to trade your life with. Only one.

2. Swap lives with this one person in all aspects: intelligence, appearance, finance, career, spiritual, social, family, dog, children, the whole package. Picture yourself as them fully.

3. Would you do it?

The answer is most likely: NO.

You quickly realize “Nope, I’m not interested in Mary’s life. I guess I kind of like this about my life.” 

Why? 

We want just a part of their lives, not the whole package. Cause you don’t have Mary’s values. You are YOU. 

Knowing yourself and understanding what matters to you leads to freedom. 

Hella Joof says it beautifully:

"If there is no one we want to exchange the whole package with, then we are the right ones. And that is a miracle." 💗

So there you have it - the end of comparison spirals. Practice playing this game next time you put someone on a pedestal.

Comparison leads to pointless suffering. 

Come back to all of you. Hold the both and.

You’re unique. You're wonderful as you are.

Hug, and another one.

Nora