Living at the expense of YOU?!

Imagine for one day, you got a free pass and you could do, say and be anything you wanted. Zero consequences. You could dress in whatever clothes. You could say whatever you wanted as loud as you wanted to. 

How would you act? Now, why don’t you act that way every day? 

It’s probably because we live in a binary world. 

Well, I’ve got something to say. It’s all a bunch of BS.

We’re either good or bad. Right or wrong. Beautiful or ugly. Gay or straight. Woman or man. 

No space n’between. Booooooooring…! 🙄

Binaries limit us and they tame us. But when we try to live outside the binary, we risk rejection. We hate feeling “unkind” or “rude”, speaking our truth. Or feeling “not pretty” without our hair done, makeup laid, and earrings in. 

When we experience rejection we feel isolated. Like we don’t belong.

The need to belong is stronger than the need to be ourselves.

So we mold and change ourselves in order to belong. As women, we participate in patriarchy. As immigrants, we code-switch. As people of color, we whitewash ourselves.

But what about the space n’between? What about all those beautiful little quirks we hold that fall between the opposing ends. Are we supposed to just completely abandon and ignore them? For the comfort of others? 

HELL NO.

The space n’between is where freedom lives. That’s where the richness is. It’s where we feel liberated. And yeah it’s scary to go there sometimes, but with the risk comes a whole lot of reward. 

I recently got back from being home in Europe. Being on the plane brings me inner peace. What I love about planes is the opportunity to travel between worlds. 

As I cross the Atlantic Ocean, I take a deep breath. I exhale all tension. I relax. I mold into that not-so-comfortable plane seat. Something about no assumptions made about language spoken. Something about the perspective of space. Something about seeing Mother Earth from all these miles above. Something about being in the clouds. I feel myself more fully.

When do you get to rest in the space between? 

👉 Hit reply and tell me your n’betweener-moment!

Hug hug

Nora

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