This is your self-made prison 😓

I've been thinking about something that hurts us as n’betweeners: 

👉 We obsess about being “GOOD.”

We find comfort in being “a good person that does the right things.”

When you get caught up in dogmatic thinking, you end up seeing the world in black and white.

We create a never-ending laundry list of strict rules on ourselves, leading to pressure and feelings of inadequacy.

Here is what it can look like to be “good” 😇:

You may tend towards perfectionism, believing you must always perform flawlessly in every aspect of your life. Any form of mistake becomes catastrophic.

Or maybe you hold rigid social justice views, feeling like you must always be perfectly informed, active, and vocal about every issue. This can lead to burnout and feelings of inadequacy when you inevitably fall short.

Trapped by your own rigidity you end up living a personal hell.

The chase of “goodness” is painfully exhausting. You won’t get to “Heaven” faster, bur rather create a self-made prison.

In reality there is no such thing as being “good.” It’s an idea you’re sold. 

We’re equally “good and bad”. This can be a hard truth to swallow.

However, when we get determined to be perceived as “good,” we overextend our energy, our resources, and our time, and we overspend our money.

Devaluing ourselves can become a sneaky n’betweener habit. 

Dare to let go of the self-made prison?

It begins with perception. How are you going to choose to view yourself? What is a different thought you can have about yourself?

Breaking free from dogmatic thinking isn’t easy, but it’s essential. By releasing rigid beliefs and being kinder to yourself, you can create a more peaceful mental space.

Life’s too short to be trapped in a self-made prison. Allow yourself to be imperfect, to rest, and to live a life that feels congruent, and not "correct."

Much love,

Nora

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