You don’t have to self-abandon to be kind

We all want it, we look for it, we try to spread it, and the world needs more of it.

Kindness..

Yet being kind has somehow translated into abandoning our needs. 

It seems that kindness is often thought of as something we offer up to others, but what does it look like to be kind to yourself?

Kindness is supposed to be easy, it’s supposed to make you feel good, but being kind to ourselves doesn’t always look that way.

When you are kind to yourself, sometimes you have to turn people away. You have to set boundaries. 

You choose yourself over someone else.

So often we are unkind to ourselves because it makes us uncomfortable to put ourselves first. Being an n’betweener is often characterized by the need to please everyone…everyone but ourselves.

The pain of feeling othered creates the need to fit in so we compromise ourselves to do so. But I am going to challenge you to find your power.

You can say no and you can speak up. If kindness looks like speaking up to a sexist family member, then you should do it! If kindness means not code-switching for that reluctant coworker, then don’t do it. 

You are allowed to be gentle with yourself. It is a necessity and you have the ability to exercise it. We're so familiar with oppression that when we get a chance to execute our power, we shy away.

Don’t do it. Learn to be uncomfortable if it means you are no longer sacrificing yourself. 

You can be kind and a badass.

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Hug hug

Nora