A magic phrase for overcommitters

Tend to say yes when you mean no?

You stay true to your word but not to yourself. Sound familiar? 

I know you want to be true to your word. I do too. It’s a reflection of our character and what we value, but let’s acknowledge when being true to your word can be harmful.

Sacrificing yourself and your needs to please others. 

Ever promised your colleague you’d help them on a project, or tell a friend you would support them through a move. You then end up letting others down plus feeling like sh*t.

Caretaking others cost you your energy and time.

Let’s save you some of that.

Saying no after saying yes it's particularly hard for sensitive n'betweeners.

Your needs are more important than anyone else - no matter how they respond.

So I have a magic phrase you can use next time you overcommit👇

💬“Hey. I know I said yes, and I now realize that I’m unfortunately unable to help. I’m learning to get better at listening to myself. I understand this has an impact and might be disappointing.”

Tweak this to your own language. The point is be honest, take accountability and be gentle with yourself.

💨 We free ourselves from guilt when we take accountability, not blame ourselves or others.

It’s ok to do this imperfectly. I promise. 

All we can ask of each other is honesty. Living our truth is how we move closer to ourselves. It’s how we live a more congruent life.

So do what you gotta do and remember that it is more important to stay true to yourself than to your word.

Nora